After a Break Up

[bradbear117]

This has happened to me and everyone else I know. Its a part of life, we let people down and people let us down.
So all I can suggest is to keep it clean. Don't go back to her and don't be overly friendly(if you know what I mean) even if she says she made a mistake, tt just end's in disaster again. "The one" would never call it off in the first place.

With regards to sleeping around. Just respect yourself and the girls out there. If they're keen and you're keen then so be it.

Its still early days and this kak takes time but try not harp on it too long, cheesy as it sounds, there's a girl out there who really needs hero.

[OmegaFenix]

This has happened to me and everyone else I know. Its a part of life, we let people down and people let us down.
So all I can suggest is to keep it clean. Don't go back to her and don't be overly friendly(if you know what I mean) even if she says she made a mistake, tt just end's in disaster again. "The one" would never call it off in the first place.

With regards to sleeping around. Just respect yourself and the girls out there. If they're keen and you're keen then so be it.

Yeah stay clear of that, stepped in to that trap once also and it can destroy a potentially good friendship for years.

Its still early days and this kak takes time but try not harp on it too long, cheesy as it sounds, there's a girl out there who really needs hero.

Dammit I was busy typing and then I saw Omega has already covered all the bases.

U have to type fast to beat the Speed of Awesome

[TBlaar]

...and seeing that she is on this forum, she now totally knows all of these things as well

[Solitude]

Wait a second...

Didn't you used to go out with Toni?

I don't know much about you two but she looked like a cool person. Now I didn't read the whole thread so I don't know what happened and I've got limited time to read and post here unfortunately, but. But! Maybe you two should just get back together. Maybe whatever happened was just because of stress in your lives or some silly thing that happened.

I know I'm grasping at straws. But hell, I've got a poor memory and I'm sure both of you have mentioned each other here at MyGaming. You are both interesting people and I hope that you can reconcile.

Hear that, Toni? Listen to me. I'm sure you are reading this too.

Breakups suck and I hope you get back together. So there. I better get back to work.

[OmegaFenix]

...and seeing that she is on this forum, she now totally knows all of these things as well

She hasn't been on in a month so she doesn't know this YET....

Wait a second...

Didn't you used to go out with Toni?

I don't know much about you two but she looked like a cool person. Now I didn't read the whole thread so I don't know what happened and I've got limited time to read and post here unfortunately, but. But! Maybe you two should just get back together. Maybe whatever happened was just because of stress in your lives or some silly thing that happened.

I know I'm grasping at straws. But hell, I've got a poor memory and I'm sure both of you have mentioned each other here at MyGaming. You are both interesting people and I hope that you can reconcile.

Hear that, Toni? Listen to me. I'm sure you are reading this too.

Breakups suck and I hope you get back together. So there. I better get back to work.

No! BAD Solitude!

[simon]

edited, just because

[Azimuth]

One of the things that really baffles me about guys is how, after a painful break up, they'll go out drinking and hooking up with other women instead of talking about it and crying it out. I've found that, generally, men are super spiteful about their exes, and I think it's because they never really deal with it.

Simon, I don't know if you have any close female friends, but if you do, I'd suggest sitting down with them and talking about it honestly. That's a lot more constructive than boozing. Remember, there's absolutely no shame in being hurt and vulnerable right now. What you're feeling is totally normal.

[Neo]

[Dan]

I've had a few awful breakups, including one particularly long and painful one. Not sure if it'll help, but here's what I took away from it all:

1. Cut her out of your life completely. Cold turkey. No calls, texts, crying over photo albums, etc. You broke up for a reason, and going back (or even just considering going back) is just going to prolong your pain.

2. The quickest way to get over someone is to get under someone else. Note that this does not necessarily mean casual and potentially risky sex, but even if you just follow the principle and start up a conversation with a girl at a bar, I guarantee you'll feel better.

3. Surround yourself with other people at all times. Being alone in your own head is dangerous. This means going out. A lot. This should also hopefully lead to point number 2.

Hang tough, dude. You always have the forum to vent on.

[ViperGTI]

1. Cut her out of your life completely. Cold turkey. No calls, texts, crying over photo albums, etc. You broke up for a reason, and going back (or even just considering going back) is just going to prolong your pain.

Usually works for me. I don't exactly agree with Dan's point 2 and 3, but that's probably just because of my type of personality. I'd rather take some time out from people and sort myself out.