The Gaymer Thread

[Ike_009]

A bit less than usual I would think -- given that I'd have to spend time with her.

Lol - I make it sound like a burden.

It'd be something like: "Darling, I'm playing online, there's no pause and the game is only half way... Can't we do that later?"

She'd have to be pretty accepting

Tell her it's a ranking match

[Stunt]

Are any of you overly-defensive queers i.e. those who feel insulted when people misuse the word gay in statements like "Fake and gay"?

[Lydon]

I wouldn't say it offends me, but it causes a momentary sickness to my stomach when I hear someone use the word in that context. It's probably because I had an extremely Christian upbringing where I was constantly taught that being gay is wrong, and I knew people who used the term in a derogatory manner with the intent of insinuating homosexuality. So I can't help but automatically and momentarily associate the word with a direct mockery of homosexuality when it's being used as an insult.

I also think it's pretty unnecessary considering the wide range of similar insults that could be used instead, without the potential to cause confusion and hurt as a result of it.

[brendanvb]

I wouldn't say it offends me, but it causes a momentary sickness to my stomach when I hear someone use the word in that context. It's probably because I had an extremely Christian upbringing where I was constantly taught that being gay is wrong, and I knew people who used the term in a derogatory manor with the intent of insinuating homosexuality. So I can't help but automatically and momentarily associate the word with a direct mockery of homosexuality when it's being used as an insult.

I also think it's pretty unnecessary considering the wide range of similar insults that could be used instead, without the potential to cause confusion and hurt as a result of it.

This pretty much. Being too sensitive doesn't help, so I try not to let things like that bother me, as in most cases (well, with the people I surround myself with), I know they don't intend to offend.

[qornea]

Are any of you overly-defensive queers i.e. those who feel insulted when people misuse the word gay in statements like "Fake and gay"?

It doesn't offend me, but I make a point of asking people who use it what it is, exactly, which makes the situation "gay" - and based on their response, I correct them or direct them to a better word to use.

Unless two dudes are making out right in front of you, I don't think shouting "Wow, that's so gay" at something is necessary.

I'm entirely guilty of throwing it around myself, though.

[Stunt]

My taking as well. I've had a few gay friends throughout my life, the majority fade from friendships due to their obsessing that they're never really accepted by those who've known them since before they came out - never the matter of what has been said or what assurances have been made.

I have a very sound acceptance of everyone around me, I cast myself from society due to what I experienced in the Army and during break and my last shift I told many lies to friends, new and old, in attempt to maintain a level of humanity which left my grasp eons ago. It caught up to me though when I had a good breakdown. It's not exactly the same thing, but in a sense it's similar to you guys coming out.

Respect to you all.

[Tsar]

I read the french foreign legion has a no gay policy? Is that true? I heard they beat the crap out of you if they discover you gay. I don't know how old the material is from what I read but has it changed or was it never true? Just curious.

[brendanvb]

I read the french foreign legion has a no gay policy? Is that true? I heard they beat the crap out of you if they discover you gay. I don't know how old the material is from what I read but has it changed or was it never true? Just curious.

I think it was true, but I can't find any recent info on it so not sure whether it is still like that.

Has anyone been watching HBO's new gay-orientated show, 'Looking'?

[Lydon]

Yes! I just started watching Looking this past weekend. I'm finding it's a more believable version of Queer as Folk so far, with some welcome odd humour. Pretty much Girls but with gay guys. I'll keep watching

[brendanvb]

Yes! I just started watching Looking this past weekend. I'm finding it's a more believable version of Queer as Folk so far, with some welcome odd humour. Pretty much Girls but with gay guys. I'll keep watching

Same here. Enjoying it and I can relate a lot to Patrick, but I do think it's a bit slow. The first season is only going to be 8 episodes and not a whole bunch has happened. Hopefully it gets a second season.