Wedding Ring Vs. Engagement Ring

[HavocXphere]

So you've never had the prospect of lobola raised?

Presumably he is pigment impaired and thus no.

I think for my engagement I'll take off my ring and use that, I practically wear it every day and it's special to me.

Just make sure its special to her too.

Remember its a day she wants to tweet/facebook/brag about so special is important - even though the particular variety of special doesn't have to be expensive.

[Neo]

Née tjom, jy gaan kak en betaal soos die res van ons. There's no such thing as "special" and "wedding" without involving $$$.

Lol good luck! You're gonna need it!!

P.s I once asked my dad how much he paid for his wedding, he told me: "I'll let you know when I'm done paying". Today, I see his point. If only it was a joke! Lol

[Ike_009]

Just make sure its special to her too.

Remember its a day she wants to tweet/facebook/brag about so special is important - even though the particular variety of special doesn't have to be expensive.

I know, long story though. The just is that I want to get married at my schools chapel and so I want to propose up on the bell tower with my leavers ring.

[Saint_Dee]

So you've never had the prospect of lobola raised?

I've actually had this long discussion with my mother about lobola and my issues with paying it (even it's significance ). Initially the idea of lobola was not about the money, it was meant to be a symbol of 2 families coming together (this includes each family's ancestry, which is why it used to involve livestock more than anything), and it was never extortion like it is today (the concept feels more like a business transaction today). Anyways, bottomline is I'm not a fan of lobola and what I feel it represents in today's world. This is not to disparage my culture or anything but those are my thoughts on the matter.

The reality is things like paying lobola (not sure I'll win that battle ), or getting a fairy-tale wedding along with the accessories to match requires person to either plan way ahead, be of a certain financial standing or get in debt (yes, I've seen and heard of this multiple times). I feel that this idea is in contrast with the concept of love which doesn't wait for these parameters to be met in your life before it hits you.
I feel there are cheaper ways to celebrate a union that can have just as much sentimental value as their lavish counterparts.

I think I've gone on a tangent, but yeah, those are my thoughts.

Presumably he is pigment impaired and thus no.

*Gasp*

My secret is out !!! Damn it

[termin8r]

This is the most important ring to get yourself is a Ring of Life Protection. Once you are married you will need it

I bought my wife a ring based on what I thought she would like, so start there and then work it into your budget.

Its not the cost its the thought that makes a big difference.

[Glordit]

This is the most important ring to get yourself is a Ring of Life Protection. Once you are married you will need it

I bought my wife a ring based on what I thought she would like, so start there and then work it into your budget.

Its not the cost its the thought that makes a big difference.

You win. In life and in everything else. Seriously people tend to forget simple things like your statement, it's the thought that one puts into the ring not the price tag, because when you die you can't take it with you.