I still see a lot of SA players on Destiny. COD has the issue with lag, had it since release, the P2P and lobby system they use makes getting games frustrating as hell.

Instead of setting your sights on just a local community, join a bigger community for games like Destiny. http://planetdestiny.com/ has a huge community and even a LFG system that works pretty well.

Just be prepared for the grind.

Don't know how the BF community looks anymore, but to be honest with you I would rather wait for Battlefront, Rainbow Six Siege and The Division. The Division will be particularly popular if they pull off only half of the promises they have been making.