im using afrihost capped (unshaped), usually its very good. I normally play around 250ms and with wtf between 197 and 210
Wow, no idea how you and all your buddies have this problem! Maybe a bugged client? Most of us are working it fine, so there must be something your side wrong boet!
Got a level 50, 2x25, 1x30, 1x10 and 1x20, thats 6 characters ;-P. I am a hardened altaholic, the MMO I enjoyed the most of all the ones I have played, always CoX since it is an alters game. SWTOR comes close and I will be playing it for a while!
I think I have a theory for the patching thing, I suffer from the same. My ISP uses two ADSL lines and switches between them. In essence your IP address changes all the time, the patcher fails if the IP address changes in the patching. I always keep a copy of the client on the same drive and when the patcher fails, I copy the whole thing over again and I do this usually about 4-5 times till it goes through. It is a pain but yeah.