Do you need to get laid?

[Murph]

LOL Spartan. Where do you go to meet woman? Lodge meetings for the Guild of Village Sociopaths?

 

[Spartan]

LOL Spartan. Where do you go to meet woman? Lodge meetings for the Guild of Village Sociopaths?

They found me.Easy as that.And for you serious folks no I am not a nutter, for the most parts.I am quite normal.I just seized chances that most wouldn't.That and I am a nympho.Bow Chicka BOW

 

[Toxin]

Well said Took. There are a real shortage of genuine nice guys out there.

Shortage......? They've become an endangered species........ why you ask?

Cause they don't breed.

*bah*
*dum*
*dish*

there are actually girls that like nice guys

My 29 years 8 months experiance begs to differ.......

I have to agree with MissM. There are girls out there who wants the nice guy. I prefer them to the idiots and the users. I dated a guy with Kuga's outlook on life - he managed to hide it till we moved in together.

My feeling is simple - if you cant respect the opposite sex then how much respect do you have for yourself? Some of these guys who take the view of use and loose and abuse even, I have found to be the most insecure, immature, childish, irresponsible men. And I for one wont have anything to do with a person who behaves like that - especially the girls who has started following the philosophy.

In the end your letting yourself down and your not gaining respect, I know you say you dont care what these girls or guys think about you. But if you stop and take a look at yourself, you will realise that you care and that is why your acting like a spoiled 4year old.

Look, in my case, it's not as if I'm going to change into Mr Hyde all of a sudden. I lived alone with my mom and sis for 6 years and with a female flatmate for almost 2 years while studying. Respecting woman is a part of who I am. That's not going to change.

For my entire adult life I tried to do things by the book. Meet a girl, exchange numbers, phone her up, go on a date, etc etc etc, but when they decide to break things up to rather date the asshole guy who uses them for a month and dumps them......... let's just say I get tired of being the guy with wet shoulder.

That's been my adult life in a nutshell, and you know what, I think I've paid my dues. I think I deserve one or two years of consensual non-obligation multi partnered sex....... thank you very much. If that makes me a horrible person..... well, I'll just have to live with that.

Dont blame all women, guys are just as guilty of abusing the nice girls.

This is probably what gets me worked up the most, if these girls are being sooooo abused by these asshole guysand they soooo rather just want to be with the nice guy........ why are they still with with the asshole guy?

If being a nice guy is supposed to be the way to go I'm forced to ask the same thing as PaPaRaZZ!.........

where the hell are these girls hiding who are looking for mister nice guy ?? i definitely can't find them

Dude, seriously....... and it truly pains me to say this........ 99% of the time........ it's a lie. End of story.

 

[Murph]

They found me.Easy as that.And for you serious folks no I am not a nutter, for the most parts.I am quite normal.I just seized chances that most wouldn't.That and I am a nympho.Bow Chicka BOW

haha

I laughed at this one:

One actually said these words:"I wish I could kill you and you could be mine forever

I went out with a girl like that in college.

'Lets jump off the bulding together so we can be together forever" .... and I'm like 'yeah, you first'

 

[Imber]

It's the biggest cliché of all but is very true:

Women who come out of difficult upbringings(abusive/alcoholic father/uncaring mother/divorce what have you) tend to not know better. Now there is three ways this can go.

1. Get into relationships you are familiar with, date abusive male. 70%
2. Fixate life on film and always search for that Romantic Comedy white knight, never find him. 20%
3. Actually realize that you deserve better, perhaps after 1. and/or 2, and meet Mr. Nice and be happy.

 

[Wyvern]

This is probably what gets me worked up the most, if these girls are being sooooo abused by these asshole guysand they soooo rather just want to be with the nice guy........ why are they still with with the asshole guy?

Im not even going to argue with you about the rest of the post. I will just comment on the part that I've quoted.

The girls and im using the word girls to describe females between the ages of 16 - 27 are stupid - yes I was one of those stupid girls. Those girls have lots of self esteem issues and somehow the worse a guy treats her the more she feels like he gives a damn. Hard to believe right? I have no sympathy for girls like that and even less for guys who cant stand up for themselves and just learn to be who they are and not try to be what they think females want them to be. Trust me the girls have idea of what they want.

I dated the ass who cheated on me whilst we lived together - that in it self is another story. But before that I can say I dated a bunch of great guys. Our biggest problems where normally that we where at different places in our lives - Im still friends with some of the guys I used to date. In all of my life I can say I have 2 dating regrets. 1st was a guy I dated in college, fantastic guy and we got along great and were looking at getting married, unfortunately due to family influences from both our families we decided to rather break it off than cause so much strife. The 2nd one was the ass I lived with.

Give me a decent, polite, caring, fun guy who doesnt mind that I game (that actually was a huge issue in the last relationship). But Im not going to hop in and out of bed with a bunch of random guys. I wont go for the bad boy type - simply because of their attitudes.

You seem like a decent guy who has become cynical = JOIN THE FOOKEN CLUB

We are all cynical and jaded when it comes to relationships especially when you have been through a few bad ones. But Ill rather hold on and meet the right guy for me. The last time a bad boy made a play for me I laughed in his face. No offence but I still believe bad boys are immature gits who needs to grow up.

 

[Tsar]

Im not even going to argue with you about the rest of the post. I will just comment on the part that I've quoted.

snip.

I am 22 and cynical. My friends get pissed of with me when I tell them its a waste of time:-/
And yes it would be nice to be with a great girl but lets face it thats just a pipe dream.

 

[to0kenZA]

Im not even going to argue with you about the rest of the post. I will just comment on the part that I've quoted.

The girls and im using the word girls to describe females between the ages of 16 - 27 are stupid - yes I was one of those stupid girls. Those girls have lots of self esteem issues and somehow the worse a guy treats her the more she feels like he gives a damn. Hard to believe right? I have no sympathy for girls like that and even less for guys who cant stand up for themselves and just learn to be who they are and not try to be what they think females want them to be. Trust me the girls have idea of what they want.

I dated the ass who cheated on me whilst we lived together - that in it self is another story. But before that I can say I dated a bunch of great guys. Our biggest problems where normally that we where at different places in our lives - Im still friends with some of the guys I used to date. In all of my life I can say I have 2 dating regrets. 1st was a guy I dated in college, fantastic guy and we got along great and were looking at getting married, unfortunately due to family influences from both our families we decided to rather break it off than cause so much strife. The 2nd one was the ass I lived with.

Give me a decent, polite, caring, fun guy who doesnt mind that I game (that actually was a huge issue in the last relationship). But Im not going to hop in and out of bed with a bunch of random guys. I wont go for the bad boy type - simply because of their attitudes.

You seem like a decent guy who has become cynical = JOIN THE FOOKEN CLUB

We are all cynical and jaded when it comes to relationships especially when you have been through a few bad ones. But Ill rather hold on and meet the right guy for me. The last time a bad boy made a play for me I laughed in his face. No offence but I still believe bad boys are immature gits who needs to grow up.

This might sound somewhat strange, but I mean it when I say it and that is that the world needs more women like you!

In other news, I've got this one mate that got extremely cynical concerning girls, well actually, pretty much everything in life. I feel really sorry for him. We've actually tried talking some sense into him before, telling him that he deserves better etc and he's one of those guys that can't for the love of him believe it when a girl actually likes him. He'll call BS and just leave it at that.

It's quite a sad story. Many of the people out there that are actually nice people that deserve the best are getting put down by the very thought of never meeting someone. I blame people's insecurities and the fact that these days, noone can just be themselves. People don't want to grow up, or at least, they make no effort. I kinda see growing up as learning who you are and being able to make decisions in your true self. A lot of people are missing out on the best parts of life by always searching for partners in the wrong places and getting into situations that's not at all ideal for them.

 

[Wyvern]

Tsar - the best advise I have for anyone like you is to stop. Stop looking for someone. Because your turning it into an obsession. FFS enjoy being single! Im turning 32 this year, Im single, Im not even dating casually or actively looking for a partner. If I meet someone tomorrow and we hit if off yay! If not, so what. You need to learn to be comfortable with yourself. Once you master that, you will be surprised how easy it becomes to meet someone.

For me as a woman, there is nothing on this planet scarier than a needy clingy man child. Ok I lie, babies freak me out too.

 

[Tsar]

This might sound somewhat strange, but I mean it when I say it and that is that the world needs more women like you!

In other news, I've got this one mate that got extremely cynical concerning girls, well actually, pretty much everything in life. I feel really sorry for him. We've actually tried talking some sense into him before, telling him that he deserves better etc and he's one of those guys that can't for the love of him believe it when a girl actually likes him. He'll call BS and just leave it at that.

It's quite a sad story. Many of the people out there that are actually nice people that deserve the best are getting put down by the very thought of never meeting someone. I blame people's insecurities and the fact that these days, noone can just be themselves. People don't want to grow up, or at least, they make no effort. I kinda see growing up as learning who you are and being able to make decisions in your true self. A lot of people are missing out on the best parts of life by always searching for partners in the wrong places and getting into situations that's not at all ideal for them.

Your friend sounds like me
Look wyvern I am not really looking for one. Its just being the only single guy in the group kinda makes it very uncomfortable.

 

[to0kenZA]

Tsar - the best advise I have for anyone like you is to stop. Stop looking for someone. Because your turning it into an obsession. FFS enjoy being single! Im turning 32 this year, Im single, Im not even dating casually or actively looking for a partner. If I meet someone tomorrow and we hit if off yay! If not, so what. You need to learn to be comfortable with yourself. Once you master that, you will be surprised how easy it becomes to meet someone.

For me as a woman, there is nothing on this planet scarier than a needy clingy man child. Ok I lie, babies freak me out too.

Geez, ja! Clingy people! >.<

And the idea of having kids at this stage freaks me out like hell! I wouldn't mind having kids ONE DAY, but not now, heeeeeealll no!

Your friend sounds like me
Look wyvern I am not really looking for one. Its just being the only single guy in the group kinda makes it very uncomfortable.

Ha! You're way too young for this BS dude. Stop worrying about your friends and their girlfriends/boyfriends. That's the worst thing you can do. Your thoughts will forever be occupied by it and it will only make you depressed. You're missing out on all the other good stuff dude. That's why I believe that getting into a real serious relationship is for a later stage in your life, when you're mature enough to know who you are and what you want, as well as all the other stuff that goes along with the whole relationship dynamic. There's a lot of things to live for, and it's awesome having someone to share that with, but you do want someone extra special in the end to share your life with.

That person isn't just going to fall out of the sky. Just focus on the other things in your life for now. Your future, your career and just enjoy it man! Growing up is awesome, don't let the opposite sex get you down while you're your way to the top!

 

[Tsar]

Geez, ja! Clingy people! >.<

And the idea of having kids at this stage freaks me out like hell! I wouldn't mind having kids ONE DAY, but not now, heeeeeealll no!



Ha! You're way too young for this BS dude. Stop worrying about your friends and their girlfriends/boyfriends. That's the worst thing you can do. Your thoughts will forever be occupied by it and it will only make you depressed. You're missing out on all the other good stuff dude. That's why I believe that getting into a real serious relationship is for a later stage in your life, when you're mature enough to know who you are and what you want, as well as all the other stuff that goes along with the whole relationship dynamic. There's a lot of things to live for, and it's awesome having someone to share that with, but you do want someone extra special in the end to share your life with.

That person isn't just going to fall out of the sky. Just focus on the other things in your life for now. Your future, your career and just enjoy it man! Growing up is awesome, don't let the opposite sex get you down while you're your way to the top!

I cannot agree with you more.
I am actually doing something with my life at this moment. Sorting out my shit. Also my studies are opening new doorways.
And kids scare the crap out of me:erm:

 

[to0kenZA]

I cannot agree with you more.
I am actually doing something with my life at this moment. Sorting out my shit. Also my studies are opening new doorways.
And kids scare the crap out of me:erm:

Yes man, exciting times! Early twenties is an amazing time in one's life, when you start seeing what you can actually do with your life! Focus on those opportunities and don't let them crackers get you down. Best of luck to you bru!

 

[Tsar]

Yes man, exciting times! Early twenties is an amazing time in one's life, when you start seeing what you can actually do with your life! Focus on those opportunities and don't let them crackers get you down. Best of luck to you bru!

Thanks mate.

 

[Wyvern]

Tooks well said.

Tsar, I totally agree with him. YOu need to learn to be comfortable with yourself and your friends when they are in relationships - DONT get involved with someone if its just so that you fit in.

Im normally the only single one in group when I go out (not counting the forum meet up) but I honestly dont care. Yes sometimes I get that feeling of omg I want that as well - a proper relationship. But I wont get involved if that is the only reason for latching on to someone.

 

[PaPaRaZZ!]

This is probably what gets me worked up the most, if these girls are being sooooo abused by these asshole guysand they soooo rather just want to be with the nice guy........ why are they still with with the asshole guy?

If being a nice guy is supposed to be the way to go I'm forced to ask the same thing as PaPaRaZZ!.........


Dude, seriously....... and it truly pains me to say this........ 99% of the time........ it's a lie. End of story.

Turning 29 this year... i've not seen many of them tbh. half of them can't even make a proper sammich ;P

 

[shadowfox]

Im normally the only single one in group when I go out (not counting the forum meet up) but I honestly dont care. Yes sometimes I get that feeling of omg I want that as well - a proper relationship. But I wont get involved if that is the only reason for latching on to someone.

I think most folks would prefer a proper relationship when it comes down to it ... but being in groups where you're the odd one out tends to add a little invisible pressure, and in the end you hook up with someone because from your perspective that's what you want - rather then the actual reason of not wanting to stand out. Ends up badly 90% of the time.

 

[Toxin]

Turning 29 this year... i've not seen many of them tbh. half of them can't even make a proper sammich ;P

Hmmmmmm, sammiches..........

Ag dude, you know what, there comes a time when people need to decide where to draw the line. That time has come for me. I'm tired of being alone.

 

[shadowfox]

Hmmmmmm, sammiches..........

Ag dude, you know what, there comes a time when people need to decide where to draw the line. That time has come for me. I'm tired of being alone.

The question of course, Toxin, is whether you'll have any sense of fulfillment down the line - and of course, whether you'll be any less lonely. I'm not criticising you ... if the answer to those questions are yes, then by all means, do what you think is necessary (I'll avoid the word right, because it gets pretty subjective).

It's just that for myself it wouldn't feel right (see, there's that subjective bit ) As with Tsar, I'm also busy studying and my future plans are far from settled, meaning that getting into a relationship at this point is probably not advisable.

I've said my bit in this thread now - I'll keep following the comments though - different viewpoints can be interesting after all.

 

[PaPaRaZZ!]

Hmmmmmm, sammiches..........

Ag dude, you know what, there comes a time when people need to decide where to draw the line. That time has come for me. I'm tired of being alone.

Very true, you sound desperate dude... be careful to grab the first chick in line, she'll end up with all your money