Murph
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And yet you get women that expect/demand this even when they know their boyfriends/fiances can't afford it.
Wedding Ring Vs. Engagement Ring
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And yet you get women that expect/demand this even when they know their boyfriends/fiances can't afford it.
Wyvern
Khaleesi
I know and that actually pisses me off beyond words!
Saint_Dee
The Phantom Poet
I'm probably going to have a hard time when I have to get married because I straight up refuse to pay ludicrous amounts of money on a rock, or the actual wedding itself (heaven have mercy on the soul that decides to take me as a significant other)... Symbolic things don't need to cost an arm and a leg IMO.
Mister 44
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Saint_Dee
The Phantom Poet
Tsar
The thing that should not be
If the woman gets all pissed off about a ring then she isn't worth it and is the wrong woman. I will never get involved with someone that demands stuff I cannot afford. bah bah bah humbug
HavocXphere
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Depends on culture too.
e.g. Ze Germans tend to go with a simple gold band for engage and then a proper ring for wedding. The first is more a declaration of intent so to speak...
No matter how you spin it its going to be expensive though
If she is willing to consider other stones then you should easily be OK.
>>or the actual wedding itself
Same...closest relatives aside they can all get lost for all I care. Might change my tune though...aka...might not have a choice
e.g. Ze Germans tend to go with a simple gold band for engage and then a proper ring for wedding. The first is more a declaration of intent so to speak...
No matter how you spin it its going to be expensive though
Depends on the girl...if she insists on diamonds then you're screwed. Do not pass go. Do not collect 20k. And pay 20k to the de beers cartel.
If she is willing to consider other stones then you should easily be OK.
>>or the actual wedding itself
Same...closest relatives aside they can all get lost for all I care. Might change my tune though...aka...might not have a choice
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czc
Thread Killer Mk VIII
So you've never had the prospect of lobola raised?
HavocXphere
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Presumably he is pigment impaired and thus no.
Just make sure its special to her too.
Remember its a day she wants to tweet/facebook/brag about so special is important - even though the particular variety of special doesn't have to be expensive.
Née tjom, jy gaan kak en betaal soos die res van ons. There's no such thing as "special" and "wedding" without involving $$$.
Lol good luck! You're gonna need it!!
P.s I once asked my dad how much he paid for his wedding, he told me: "I'll let you know when I'm done paying". Today, I see his point. If only it was a joke! Lol
Lol good luck! You're gonna need it!!
P.s I once asked my dad how much he paid for his wedding, he told me: "I'll let you know when I'm done paying". Today, I see his point. If only it was a joke! Lol
Ike_009
Assassin of Accountants
Just make sure its special to her too.
Remember its a day she wants to tweet/facebook/brag about so special is important - even though the particular variety of special doesn't have to be expensive.
I know, long story though. The just is that I want to get married at my schools chapel and so I want to propose up on the bell tower with my leavers ring.
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Saint_Dee
The Phantom Poet
I've actually had this long discussion with my mother about lobola and my issues with paying it (even it's significance
). Initially the idea of lobola was not about the money, it was meant to be a symbol of 2 families coming together (this includes each family's ancestry, which is why it used to involve livestock more than anything), and it was never extortion like it is today (the concept feels more like a business transaction today). Anyways, bottomline is I'm not a fan of lobola and what I feel it represents in today's world. This is not to disparage my culture or anything but those are my thoughts on the matter. The reality is things like paying lobola (not sure I'll win that battle
), or getting a fairy-tale wedding along with the accessories to match requires person to either plan way ahead, be of a certain financial standing or get in debt (yes, I've seen and heard of this multiple times). I feel that this idea is in contrast with the concept of love which doesn't wait for these parameters to be met in your life before it hits you.I feel there are cheaper ways to celebrate a union that can have just as much sentimental value as their lavish counterparts.
I think I've gone on a tangent, but yeah, those are my thoughts.
*Gasp*
My secret is out
!!! Damn it 
termin8r
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This is the most important ring to get yourself is a Ring of Life Protection. Once you are married you will need it
I bought my wife a ring based on what I thought she would like, so start there and then work it into your budget.
Its not the cost its the thought that makes a big difference.
Glordit
Neo Zeon
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This is the most important ring to get yourself is a Ring of Life Protection. Once you are married you will need it
I bought my wife a ring based on what I thought she would like, so start there and then work it into your budget.
Its not the cost its the thought that makes a big difference.
You win. In life and in everything else.
Seriously people tend to forget simple things like your statement, it's the thought that one puts into the ring not the price tag, because when you die you can't take it with you.