Are you happy with how your life turned out? (Thus far)

It's such a good idea for a thread.

I have my regrets but my life turned out well. Especially considering how bad things were 10 years ago.

There are things that I'm very happy about. I earn a good salary in a stable job. I've got a wife, two doggies and a cat and I love them dearly. We don't want kids so I get to game a lot.

If I could go back in time I would not be such a lazy ass between the ages of 20 and 30. I think that's my biggest regret.

So yes, I'm happy with how life has turned out so far. If you asked me 10 years ago I would have said the opposite.
 
Sure there's things I've thought about, more like "what if" moments. But I don't harp on them and I live my life with no regrets.


Honestly, I wouldn't change a thing. I may not be well off and living on the bread line (more like scraping) but my honest to God opinion is this; I am honestly and truly happy and wouldn't want to change anything. I am content with what I have.

I don't dwell or live in the past, I live in the now and aim to be better in the future. The Lord has blessed me enough to know that I should be happy with what I have, it's all materialistic anyway. I have a beautiful son that He has blessed me with, good family and a strong foundation.

Auxilium meum a domino
 
I am indeed.

I am happily married, I have two beautiful kids. The job that I have had for the past 8.5 years is fulfilling and challenging, plus I work with a great bunch of people.

I've managed to complete two Bachelor's degrees and finish the Comrades Marathon, both requiring hard work and discipline.

One thing is we're not as financially established as we had hoped to be at this stage of life but we're getting there slowly but surely (I hope).

More than all this, I know who I am. My faith has been tried and tested and I live with conviction in my beliefs.
 
HavocXphere said:
Honestly I think everyone regrets something about those years.

I should probably have had more fun. Was way too serious.
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I concur. I grew up "fending for myself" do to speak, so had to learn to be responsible very early on. I'm talking primary school years here... This led me to always push my own limits academically, which has now filtered through to my professional life as well.

I often look at people who are able to just unwind and forget about work and wish to be like that. This had been a point of contention in my marriage, but luckily my wife has accepted that that's who I am and she's rather supporting me now than fighting against my constant work focus. But still, I do regret not "living life" during my teenage years and 20s.

I also regret not taking a gap year after studying to go see the world. I've always been filled with wanderlust and it's one of the main forces driving my desire to emigrate. I'll sometimes stare at photos of alpine scenes or rolling green hills and be filled with regret (not desire) for not seeing it with my own eyes.

So besides my wanderlust and lack of playtime, there's not much else I regret. I know both are things I can probably attend to from now on, but my personality and nature prevents both from realising.


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Currently I cant say I am, I wish I could, it was going in the right direction, the knocks are getting a bit harder to digest and shrug off, I applaud those who have their faith and family support to lean on.

I have regrets all over, I have stopped living in the past, but it has shaped me, made me stronger in ways I could never explain, some days I honestly have no idea how I have managed to be here. Then I remember I have a few great friends, and a forum family that helps me stay ok. Im glad this past 6 months are finally over, I think my biggest mistake was to study this semester. It was a waste of money and time - both of which I didnt have. But at least physically I am slowly healing, mentaly its still a rollercoaster.

I honestly dont know what real happy and contentment is or looks like. I need to work on this protective bubble I keep around myself - I need to let more people into my life, I am just one of those who REALLY hate making my issues other peoples. Especially considering how long I have been in this place.
 
For the most part yes.

I am happily married and we both have pretty good jobs, we have a beautiful and healthy 2 year old boy. We have supportive friends and family.

The only "regret" as that we live in Mpumalanga because of my job, I would really like to move back to the Western Cape so we can be closer to our family and a bunch of our friends. It is something I'm working on though, it is just taking longer than expected.
 
Blazzok said:
For the most part yes.

I am happily married and we both have pretty good jobs, we have a beautiful and healthy 2 year old boy. We have supportive friends and family.

The only "regret" as that we live in Mpumalanga because of my job, I would really like to move back to the Western Cape so we can be closer to our family and a bunch of our friends. It is something I'm working on though, it is just taking longer than expected.
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Wel ons wag geduldig vir julle! Julle drie sal hier kom
 
Crzwaco said:
No not really.

I am about 5+ years behind my plans I had in school.
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Bru I was planning on being a millionaire and superhero by now. 5+ years behind schedule doesn't even come close to how far off the mark I am from high school wishes...

FarligOpptreden said:
I also regret not taking a gap year after studying to go see the world. I've always been filled with wanderlust and it's one of the main forces driving my desire to emigrate.
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Don't confuse wanderlust with emigrating mate. Wanderlust is running around Prague in the rain trying to find the castle you saw on the internet. Emigrating is sitting in a (very) packed tube/subway 50 minutes every day commuting into London.

I totally recommend emigrating (do it) - but the expectations have to align with the reality else things get ugly.
 
Not yet.

2008 was an extremely shit year for me. It literally couldn't have gotten worse for me. That was my rock bottom. Since then a lot of hard work has gone into turning my life around. Through this recovery process I did work on being ambitious. I worked on my long term and short term goals, I put together plans, and for the most part those plans have come to fruition. Unfortunately my ambition drive me to be better. I am scared of complacency, of not growing. I'm scared me being complacent of where I was in life would take me back to those awful events of 2008. I cannot let that happen again, so I will never stop working on my life.

And yes, it is not a healthy way of thinking about your life. It's extremely difficult for me to sit and feel happy about my life right now. I hyper-analyse things and feel like I cannot be happy until I fixed that issue in my life. Or until I achieve that particular part.

For the most part, I am happy with my progress, extremely happy about that. But I'm not where I should be yet, so I cannot be happy with my life, not yet. Perhaps one day...
 
HavocXphere said:
Don't confuse wanderlust with emigrating mate. Wanderlust is running around Prague in the rain trying to find the castle you saw on the internet. Emigrating is sitting in a (very) packed tube/subway 50 minutes every day commuting into London.

I totally recommend emigrating (do it) - but the expectations have to align with the reality else things get ugly.
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Thing is, emigrating to a country in/around Europe makes it much easier to fulfill that wanderlust. As you rightly know, living in good old ZA makes it very difficult to expand your horizons from a distance and affordability perspective.

African scenery has never really appealed to me. It's too hot, too dry, too brown and too flat. I need to see greenery, mountains and proper seasons. I'm not even going to touch on the political landscape as I know each country has their own issues they have to deal with.


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