Bullying a problem in South Africa

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School bullying has become a problem, according to a survey by consumer insights company Pondering Panda.

"Not only is bullying once more front and centre as the biggest problem facing our schools, even more people are identifying it as a problem now than a year ago," spokeswoman Shirley Wakefield said on Tuesday.

"The bullying problem has been made worse by the proliferation of cellphones and mobile devices, which has led to growth in cyber-bullying. This...read more here: Bullying a problem in South Africa
 
And that is precisely why my one son is doing kickboxing/mma and the other wrestles because they are both small in stature but don't stand back for bigger kids. But they are not bullies either they know that if they use what they have learned to hurt other children and not just to defend themselves it's "siep sop Braai boud" :p

I was actually one of those people when i was in school :( and to this day i'm not proud of some of the things i did to other kids
I actually met one of the guys i used to pick on a few months ago. He turned out gay and i feel somewhere along the line i had a hand in it and i felt like shit. ( i did it to be one of the in kids )

But today it's much worse than in the days i was in school and i despise bullying now more than ever. We should also start a anti bullying campaign in SA like they have in America that's funded by the WWE and the schools.
 
There's this theory that bullies are usually those kids that are on the cusp of being popular and SEEK to be popular through bullying. I'm in no way trying to justify bullying but do you think this is natural selection at play?
 
AlienTaker said:
And that is precisely why my one son is doing kickboxing/mma and the other wrestles because they are both small in stature but don't stand back for bigger kids. But they are not bullies either they know that if they use what they have learned to hurt other children and not just to defend themselves it's "siep sop Braai boud" :p

I was actually one of those people when i was in school :( and to this day i'm not proud of some of the things i did to other kids
I actually met one of the guys i used to pick on a few months ago. He turned out gay and i feel somewhere along the line i had a hand in it and i felt like shit. ( i did it to be one of the in kids )

But today it's much worse than in the days i was in school and i despise bullying now more than ever. We should also start a anti bullying campaign in SA like they have in America that's funded by the WWE and the schools.
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I highly doubt you had a hand in him being gay lol.
 
Tsar you never know m8 things that happen to people have lasting effects I'm not saying it was only because of something i did but i might have contributed to it.

@Edelweiss don't know how old you are but back in the days of my school years it was either your on the giving end or the receiving end.
 
AlienTaker, your actions had no input on that particular outcome (even if you forced him). You may have added to his problems and I hope you had the integrity and courage to at least apologise for what you did even if it happened years ago.
 
Nimatek said:
AlienTaker, your actions had no input on that particular outcome (even if you forced him). You may have added to his problems and I hope you had the integrity and courage to at least apologize for what you did even if it happened years ago.
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That i did do Nim i'm a very humble person nowadays. I have i side effect called turrets syndrome but otherwise i'm fine. and he said he forgot about it a long time ago and he moved on no use in keeping grudges. but he's not a bad oke he and my wife gets along real well
 
AlienTaker said:
That i did do Nim i'm a very humble person nowadays. I have i side effect called turrets syndrome but otherwise i'm fine. and he said he forgot about it a long time ago and he moved on no use in keeping grudges. but he's not a bad oke he and my wife gets along real well
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if that's not a typo it sounds awesome :p

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AlienTaker said:
That i did do Nim i'm a very humble person nowadays. I have i side effect called turrets syndrome but otherwise i'm fine. and he said he forgot about it a long time ago and he moved on no use in keeping grudges. but he's not a bad oke he and my wife gets along real well
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There you have it ;) If it really affected him that badly the response would have likely been very different.

Bullying is something that won't ever truly go away. Having support structures in place to help the victims will have a far bigger effect than just posting statistics about it.

I was so introverted during my school years that I honestly can't recall that much bullying. There were a few incidents that didn't help but that is more a kid saying something to get a reaction than actual bully mentality. I just hope that the victims have someone they can turn to to assist with processing what has happened and to find a way through it.
 
Bullying is a scourge. I was on the receiving end at school and often got my tail kicked six-love for no reason at all. Made me hate going to school. Standard 7 and 8 were probably the worst years of my life and school. Will never forget walking down the stairs, rounding the corner and walking straight into a punch on my nose. Those days are gone, but will never forget how demeaning in all was or the swines who thought they could own whoever they wanted to.

In some respects it made me focus on academics to keep me from focusing on my fears.
 
I was victim to bullying at school.

Probably explains my (now) excessive, tactless use of profanity. That -- or simply -- poor anger-management :rolleyes:
 
So what would you guys do if you had a kid who came to you and said that he/she is being constantly bullied at school and it's affecting their school work and self-esteem? Even worse, the bullies could be physically assaulting your kid to the extent that they need serious medical attention? What if you have a daughter and these bullies are somehow sexually assaulting her? Or, emotionally your kid is so bullied that she decides to commit suicide (which happens a lot, sadly)

It sounds like school can be compared to gen-pop in prison. When and how, would you as a parent, step in?
 
Well physical abuse leaves evidence so you can quickly get the school to admit there is a problem and hopefully do something.
Emotional abuse is a different story, you can't jump in and slap someone up the head. The only way I can think of assisting someone here is by getting them to talk about it. Help them find a way to either ignore it, or a way to vent without it slowly killing them inside.
 
Nimatek said:
Well physical abuse leaves evidence so you can quickly get the school to admit there is a problem and hopefully do something.
Emotional abuse is a different story, you can't jump in and slap someone up the head. The only way I can think of assisting someone here is by getting them to talk about it. Help them find a way to either ignore it, or a way to vent without it slowly killing them inside.
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Talk about it don't keep it pent up because that is when situations like shooting up a school happens. And speak to your children and tell them that if they feel the need to speak to someone they should just ask, also there are methods like self defense and so forth not to bully back but to at least stand up for themselves
 
I don't know if this is bullying or what...but let me place it here anyway:

I was picked on during on my high school days....there wasn't physical, fist throwing, bullying, just people picked on me. Grade 8 - 11 :(

I suppose it explains my lack of social skills now....I dunno.

One of the reasons why I still hate my high school so much.....would only go to the 10 year reunion to flaunt my money at them (should I make it big).
 
Flaunting your success is a goal but honestly if that is the only reason to go back then I would rather advise you skip it. Money / success is a very small thing in life actually. You need it yes, but don't use it as a crutch for attaining happiness.
 
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