Do you need to get laid?

[sycogrim]

Also, seriously, bars are usually not good places to meet nice people. SERIOUSLY.

Actually I met one of my ex's at a pub and ja we dated for a while, and the only reason why we broke up was because she moved to Aus, but other than that it was great and we're still in contact as friends obviously.

I know a lot of people are against it but I don't see an issue in that...

 

[PaPaRaZZ!]

I don't wanna know.

if you ever watched the comedy Blue Mountain State... you'll know what im talking about

 

[OGBuzz]

Here is my story.

I am not an asshole, I'm not into the whole "alpha/beta" debate that's raging all over the place. I'm a [insert stereotype], I like my games, I like reading books, I like most kinds music(take that rap and screamo shit away from here), I do adventure sports, I play golf, I am a very likable person.

I have never had any problem with women, I used to be kinda shy while young (I was just uninterested with life at the moment). I have never had any women say no to me, ever. Not once did I think that being an asshole would get me anywhere with the "hot chicks". They were usually the ones that were hanging around the men with the intellectual capacity of a brick.

To get a girl you just introduce yourself, act nice enough and you will get a number and a second date. There is no need to be an asshole, and if you for a moment think that would have nabbed you her. Then she isn't worth your time!

Any person that thinks being an asshole to women is an idiot. It's like downloading Daikatana, sure you got it but it's still a defective product.

And for proof here is me and pre-fiancée. She's the nicest person in the world and we love, trust and support each other, that which every relationship should be based on.

+1 to you sir

goes to show, be true to yourself and the rest falls in place

thats not to say dont be a "go-getter" or not take some steps and risks, just be who you are

too many i have seen that force this kind of thing, making it fake and plastic and ironically this kind of "plastic" doesnt last long

there is a saying in afrikaans "soort soek soort", so behave like a "man-slut" and all yur ever going to find is a loose goose and possibly a few unwated children, not to mention a now messed up life that needs to be put back together...

\Salutes Imber

 

[Gimaru]

I'm not sure what is meant by this "nice guy" bollox really, as I have never categorized or think too much of such really regarding the lure of women. I don't even know if I fall into the "nice guy" cliche everyone is mentioning, but either way I have ended up with an amazing girl which I am currently engaged to. I do believe in the prospects of "alpha male" though, and I'm assuming that's what has driven me over the years. That being based on many things, my 10 odd years of body building, boxing, but most of all, personality. It just means I'm very dominant around other guys, I refuse to be a lesser, but that doesn't affect the way I treat my woman. That being said, treating women like shit is beneath me, and I don't see the point. If you do that, I'd think you will have an unhappy marriage in the end. My mum brought me up as a gentleman, and so I am to this day, and am the happiest I've ever been because of the relationship I'm in right now. Respect, love, trust, happiness, all those things come from mutual actions in my opinion- and treating women like bollocks won't earn you those benefits, for long anyway.

I have seen couples ranging from my age, to about 3 years older (friends and strangers alike) with marriages/relationships without the mutual treatment of respect, and all I can say is that I would not want the outcome in my own. I have seen divorces, plain unhappiness, disrespect, "letting themselves go" as a result, cheating, and some of them are stuck with children to complicate things for them even more. Maybe the complications are beyond me, but I fail to see why they can't just try and make a bit more effort. Like I said before, I have been with my girl for 7 years now, and we're now engaged- but were still going 100% strong, and I won't let it change for anything, and I doubt it will for it's been 7 years already. We might as well be married already, because we've been living together for the last 5 years. I do not know much of such things really, but there are my 2 cents.

 

[OGBuzz]

@Gimaru

yet more proof for the disbelievers or doubters

i hope it sheds some light and helps them realise the error of their ways....

+1 dude

 

[symbolofmylife]

And the idea of having kids at this stage freaks me out like hell! I wouldn't mind having kids ONE DAY, but not now, heeeeeealll no!

Oh man then put off getting married for a while....I dont want children...neither does my wife...so we are comfortable in that decision. We both feel life has more to offer than bringing up kids for 20 odd years...so screw that.

But apparently that decision isn't ours to make. Since we got married we get bombarded with baby questions so damn frequently we've actually started messing with people as they get so damn snooty and pushy about a subject that actually has f-all to do with them.

So we tell them I've had an accident and cannot have children, that my wife has a threatening medical condition that will kill her if she falls pregnant etc....funny how quickly people stop asking then.

But you do get some real a-holes when it comes to this topic. We've had a lady once tell us we were selfish for not having to want kids. I am still trying to figure out how not procreating is selfish but anyway....

But on that topic we've spoken to people and friends on both side of the fence. Friends of ours recently had a boy. To them it's the most amazing "life altering" experience ever.

On the other side we've also met elderly people that never had kids. And to them it's the most amazing "life altering" experience ever, that none of them regret.

 

[to0kenZA]

Oh man then put off getting married for a while....I dont want children...neither does my wife...so we are comfortable in that decision. We both feel life has more to offer than bringing up kids for 20 odd years...so screw that.

But apparently that decision isn't ours to make. Since we got married we get bombarded with baby questions so damn frequently we've actually started messing with people as they get so damn snooty and pushy about a subject that actually has f-all to do with them.

So we tell them I've had an accident and cannot have children, that my wife has a threatening medical condition that will kill her if she falls pregnant etc....funny how quickly people stop asking then.

But you do get some real a-holes when it comes to this topic. We've had a lady once tell us we were selfish for not having to want kids. I am still trying to figure out how not procreating is selfish but anyway....

But on that topic we've spoken to people and friends on both side of the fence. Friends of ours recently had a boy. To them it's the most amazing "life altering" experience ever.

On the other side we've also met elderly people that never had kids. And to them it's the most amazing "life altering" experience ever, that none of them regret.

Yeah dude, I guess it's a personal preference, but I will decide when I get to that stage in my life. For now, I don't want to think about it. I must say however that I wouldn't mind having a little girl one day. I would love to see what it's like seeing them grow up and all that. I can imagine that it can also be a major pain in the @ss. Haha.

Too much to compute right now!

 

[DenSweeP]

Wow, now we are into the to have kids or not topic.

Personally, nah, no kids for me thanks. I'm too selfish with my time and my money. Why would I want to buy nappies or school books when I can upgrade my PC instead or buy a new car or go on holiday instead?

 

[shadowfox]

We went from getting laid to having babies ... 0.o

Circle of life I guess?

Why would I want to buy nappies or school books when I can upgrade my instead?

Your what? I'm a little worried about what's meant to be in that gap

 

[Azimuth]

Oh man then put off getting married for a while....I dont want children...neither does my wife...so we are comfortable in that decision. We both feel life has more to offer than bringing up kids for 20 odd years...so screw that.

But apparently that decision isn't ours to make. Since we got married we get bombarded with baby questions so damn frequently we've actually started messing with people as they get so damn snooty and pushy about a subject that actually has f-all to do with them.

So we tell them I've had an accident and cannot have children, that my wife has a threatening medical condition that will kill her if she falls pregnant etc....funny how quickly people stop asking then.

But you do get some real a-holes when it comes to this topic. We've had a lady once tell us we were selfish for not having to want kids. I am still trying to figure out how not procreating is selfish but anyway....

But on that topic we've spoken to people and friends on both side of the fence. Friends of ours recently had a boy. To them it's the most amazing "life altering" experience ever.

On the other side we've also met elderly people that never had kids. And to them it's the most amazing "life altering" experience ever, that none of them regret.

Ugh, tell me about it. It's even worse if you're female, seriously. When I say I don't want children, I always get these condescending "You just don't want them now, dear"-type responses. :|

 

[DenSweeP]

Your what? I'm a little worried about what's meant to be in that gap

Fixed. hahahahaha!

 

[to0kenZA]

Ugh, tell me about it. It's even worse if you're female, seriously. When I say I don't want children, I always get these condescending "You just don't want them now, dear"-type responses. :|

Hahahahahaha!!!!! That made me laugh!! Typical!

 

[DenSweeP]

Ugh, tell me about it. It's even worse if you're female, seriously. When I say I don't want children, I always get these condescending "You just don't want them now, dear"-type responses. :|

My wife typical response to the "when are you having kids?" question is that she is too busy washing her hair that day.

Seriously though, how many people claim that kids are the best things in their lives? But then I go out on a Saturday to the shops and all I see are parents looking miff as shit with kids that are running riot, screaming, breaking things etc. Or parents scrambling after kids running away, parents at a restaurant trying to force little Susie or Mikey to eat their fucking kiddies burger and chips that they just spent R50 bucks on! Hahahaha! My wife & I hose ourselves when we see this. And these scenarios are only the first five odd years. Then they start going to school, hit puberty, start drinking blah blah blah, No thanks.

That is why I have 5 German Shepards! Way cooler than having kids!

 

[OmegaFenix]

Ugh, tell me about it. It's even worse if you're female, seriously. When I say I don't want children, I always get these condescending "You just don't want them now, dear"-type responses. :|

Some people just a) Should not reproduce or b) don't have those maternal genes. Eitherway its good for the kid, who wants to be the child of a couple of idiots or of a parent who didn't actually want one.

 

[to0kenZA]

My wife typical response to the "when are you having kids?" question is that she is too busy washing her hair that day.

Seriously though, how many people claim that kids are the best things in their lives? But then I go out on a Saturday to the shops and all I see are parents looking miff as shit with kids that are running riot, screaming, breaking things etc. Or parents scrambling after kids running away, parents at a restaurant trying to force little Susie or Mikey to eat their fucking kiddies burger and chips that they just spent R50 bucks on! Hahahaha! My wife & I hose ourselves when we see this. And these scenarios are only the first five odd years. Then they start going to school, hit puberty, start drinking blah blah blah, No thanks.

That is why I have 5 German Shepards! Way cooler than having kids!

Hahahahaha!!! +1

 

[shadowfox]

<----- Former Spur waiter.

Avoided Saturday mornings like the plague.

 

[OmegaFenix]

My wife typical response to the "when are you having kids?" question is that she is too busy washing her hair that day.

Seriously though, how many people claim that kids are the best things in their lives? But then I go out on a Saturday to the shops and all I see are parents looking miff as shit with kids that are running riot, screaming, breaking things etc. Or parents scrambling after kids running away, parents at a restaurant trying to force little Susie or Mikey to eat their fucking kiddies burger and chips that they just spent R50 bucks on! Hahahaha! My wife & I hose ourselves when we see this. And these scenarios are only the first five odd years. Then they start going to school, hit puberty, start drinking blah blah blah, No thanks.

That is why I have 5 German Shepards! Way cooler than having kids!

I feel the same when I go to the shops, then my wife tells me "Our children won't be like that." But still that fear that my children will turn into the little fuckups of tomorrow persists like a bad rash. But I love my wife and she wants kids and honestly, it would be a bleeding shame for me to deprive future generations of my genes.

On a separate note, if you take into account at what rate the "masses" (read idiots) reproduce and then compare it to the rate with which those who are not idiots reproduce you see that we, the non idiotic ones, are becoming an endangered species.

 

[Murph]

Hahaha Den, spot on.

 

[symbolofmylife]

Ugh, tell me about it. It's even worse if you're female, seriously. When I say I don't want children, I always get these condescending "You just don't want them now, dear"-type responses. :|

Ah man....yes, and some people really get upset when you tell them your reasons....ours are quite simple:
- I dont like kids to begin with
- *Kids are expensive and I am sure I can enjoy the fruits of my 8 hours of hell (work) a day better than giving some of it to some unappreciative little brat. The government already takes enough.
- Sleep is good
- Gaming without interruption is good
- I detest rugby and similar sports. My kid wont get support from me.
- I am married so the basic math indicates I will not grow old alone. Should I lose my wife through natural causes or divorce, I will be alone yes. At least I will be able to afford to be alone where-ever I want. (see * above) On that topic my mom's widowed mother lives in Cape Town. My mom lives in Pretoria. So regardless life in most cases will not afford your kids the opportunity to look after you.

All and all I just actually want to tell these people F.U!!!! with a load of other obscenities. If you want/do have kids, awesome for you!!!! really....but leave me the hell alone.

 

[czc]

I saw a noisy kid like that mom was walking and he stops and turns into a little screaming terror, mom turns and looks at him and he sees that and starts screaming more (nearly bye bye shop windows) she just carries on walking away from him, he doesn't get the attention he wants so he stops and runs after mommy. People try to molly coddle their kids too much.