Do you need to get laid?

Well Kuga

dude i dont know you personally but im goona be giving my 5c but i wont be flaming on you or anyone but rather what i have seen/learnt and maybe you can take some advice from me or just read it and see how you feel.

Whilst i am only indeed 21, i ahve always preffered to take the backseat in certian aspects of life, observe and take mental notes.

Despite what people are saying and ragging you about this and what you done, real good can come out of this for you.

We all know for a start that the child clearly was not planned by any means, but this is your child, the miracle of life and child birth is so amazing that once your observe/experiece the Mircale of life, you will clearly realise that life means so much more then the next "lay down with a chick" infact many who were indeed like or simmilar to you are pretty much different men today, i can bank on that.

Brining a child into this world fall soley on yours/mothers shoulders, the child is your own blood, the product of you and in the end do you want to live with regret or let this child bring the best out of you and perhaps create a change, drug dealers/gansters/crimminals alike/bad men have changed because of a child and the love for that being they expereinced, it can only bring out the best in you, whilst you may not feel ready for a child i implore you to sit down and think about this for real. Imagine the child never knowing who their father was, imagine just being 2 years old and not knowing your dad, going to school event on seeing all the other dads with them and you the child being left with a mother who loves your dearly but never having you dad there for you, frankly it actually heartbreaking to think of such a thing, perhaps your parent were never there for you, maybe they were but maybe its time to right your wrongs and think of teh child, do you really want your own blood to hate you in the end because you were never there for them.

This child is your miracle and so you should do everything to protect, love and be there for it, i cant imagine today growing up without a dad or mother, i know friends who have done it and their biggest wish was to have both thier parents there for them.
I cant imagine my dad not being there when he tought me how to ride a bike or a dad who took me to work when i was on school holidays and treated me to streers for lunch or some time on his PC surfing and checking out my fav character such as crash bandicoot or a dad who gave me guidance on my future or helped me with my maths homework. All thse things you will miss and leave yourself years from now with emptyness and regret

I truly hope this gets to you.

Cheers
 
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Tsar said:
heh. I kinda don't believe a word kuga says.
That is all.
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Well that is your prerogative. What would I have to gain if I made something like this up?

DenSweeP said:
Was also wondering, but either way, no glove, no love.

And if she did pull a fast one on Kuga, all I can say is HAHAHAHAHA! You screw enough woman, litereally and figuratively, sooner or later you gonna get screwed back and I don't mean in the good way.
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Pretty much what has happened. I'm pretty screwed. No more CUD funds ;(

Wyvern said:
Just so you know the pill and so forth are not 100% baby proof. ALWAYS use 2 methods if you want to prevent this from happening.
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Clearly.

Too little, too late for me.
shadowfox said:
I think we've probably laid into the guy enough now. He's admitted the mistake and admitted he was naive - and he was man enough to admit it to all of us.

Whether he's being played (which would be a remarkable irony for sure) or not will become apparent in due time. I'm sure Kuga will keep us up to date.
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Heh. The guys can rag on me all they want. I'm going with her this Saturday to the hospital for another scan. It was supposed to be non-identical twins.. She phoned me up about a month ago and said she had an op. One of the fertilized eggs got stuck and they removed it. This one was too small for them to pick up..

So imagine having a pregnancy scare, then being relieved from it, and then been told a month later that she is pregnant.

ogbuzz said:
Well Kuga

dude i dont know you personally but im goona be giving my 5c but i wont be flaming on you or anyone but rather what i have seen/learnt and maybe you can take some advice from me or just read it and see how you feel.

Whilst i am only indeed 21, i ahve always preffered to take the backseat in certian aspects of life, observe and take mental notes.

Despite what people are saying and ragging you about this and what you done, real good can come out of this for you.

We all know for a start that the child clearly was not planned by any means, but this is your child, the miracle of life and child birth is so amazing that once your observe/experiece the Mircale of life, you will clearly realise that life means so much more then the next "lay down with a chick" infact many who were indeed like or simmilar to you are pretty much different men today, i can bank on that.

Brining a child into this world fall soley on yours/mothers shoulders, the child is your own blood, the product of you and in the end do you want to live with regret or let this child bring the best out of you and perhaps create a change, drug dealers/gansters/crimminals alike/bad men have changed because of a child and the love for that being they expereinced, it can only bring out the best in you, whilst you may not feel ready for a child i implore you to sit down and think about this for real. Imagine the child never knowing who their father was, imagine just being 2 years old and not knowing your dad, going to school event on seeing all the other dads with them and you the child being left with a mother who loves your dearly but never having you dad there for you, frankly it actually heartbreaking to think of such a thing, perhaps your parent were never there for you, maybe they were but maybe its time to right your wrongs and think of teh child, do you really want your own blood to hate you in the end because you were never there for them.

This child is your miracle and so you should do everything to protect, love and be there for it, i cant imagine today growing up without a dad or mother, i know friends who have done it and their biggest wish was to have both thier parents there for them.
I cant imagine my dad not being there when he tought me how to ride a bike or a dad who took me to work when i was on school holidays and treated me to streers for lunch or some time on his PC surfing and checking out my fav character such as crash bandicoot or a dad who gave me guidance on my future or helped me with my maths homework. All thse things you will miss and leave yourself years from now with emptyness and regret

I truly hope this gets to you.

Cheers
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Thanks for your words of wisdom. I have made a decision to be there for the child. Not sure about the mother yet. No idea how this is going to play out, but we'll cross that bridge when we get there.
 
@Kuga:

while I think u were pretty stupid with being with so many girls like u were (are?) and not being 100% sure with contraception, I do think that by saying ur going to be there for the kid is a good thing. Just keep in mind that it does take both parents with a good relationship to make things work for that child.. so try get on with her, support her as well. u don't need to be in a romantic (for lack of better word) relationship but u do need to work on establishing a good relationship with her for your child.

I hope this will teach u to be extra careful in the future and all.

and good luck. u are going to need it.


(and for those single parents out there - don't hate on me for the two parents to raise a child idea - its the ideal, not always reality, I do know this. Personal experience.)
 
Kuga said:
Depends on how close they are. The ones I've known for say 5+ years I wouldn't, because I'd eventually end up hurting them and I wouldn't be able to do that (the ones I actually care about.) Plus they know what I'm about, so they will stay the fack away from me lol. The girls I've met in the last 6 months yes, I bounce between them. It's quite simple though.

You know how it goes. You go out with some friends. Bringing female friends is a plus because your target, will see you with females and will think "oh good, there's woman hanging around him, he can't be a total loser/creep etc." Do you thing and by the end of the night you bed them, you leave your number and if they phone you back, you know you are sorted. Once you've done that, you've established that next time (if you decide there to be a next time) you both know what the climax of the evening will be (pun intended :D). Don't ever phone a chick the next day. Sending the wrong signals.

After a year, I had a long list of who I could phone. There was no need to acquire new targets. Just go out and enjoy yourselves. Phone them and allow them to join you. They became friends, but the foundation was sex. You know you've achieved something great when you go home with 2 of em together and they cool with that.
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Wow I cant believe you treat women that way and I cant believe women devalue themselves to do that. Actually, I can believe people do that, but still I find it sad and I pity you.
 
"Exception from HRESULT: 0x80004004"

Operation Aborted.

It's not nice. But its nicer than bringing an unwanted child into this world to be raised by unprepared parents. I'm not a big believer in marriage so do what you want, don't have to marry her to bring up the child. My cousins were raised by parents who were all married except for the binding paper.

Just be sure you actually both really want to have the child :)
 
As for previous discussions... Girls do exist for nice guys. My girlfriend is one of these girls. She initially got with me to prove to everyone else that I wasn't gay. lol. I don't know what to think of that yet..... then she fell in love with me she says. So yeah, we have been together almost a year and had great fun along the way. Next year we will mutually split because I'm going to study and she is going to travel but we plan to meet up in the future. She was my first special real relationship and I thouroughly enjoyed my times with her over the last year. :)

By the way, going back to previous discussions... Is the pill for men available in SA yet? or the injection. that will be great. No horrible nasty condoms, 100% effective and you just need to get it done once every 3 months?! I just don't trust the pill for women.... me and my girl have had a few preggy scares to date :/
 
sycogrim said:
loooooooooooooooooooooooool and are you feeling better about being a baby daddy now?? :p
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I guess I've gotten used to the idea. Like it or not, it's coming.

HoboMincer said:
"Exception from HRESULT: 0x80004004"

Operation Aborted.

It's not nice. But its nicer than bringing an unwanted child into this world to be raised by unprepared parents. I'm not a big believer in marriage so do what you want, don't have to marry her to bring up the child. My cousins were raised by parents who were all married except for the binding paper.

Just be sure you actually both really want to have the child :)
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I'm not gonna marry her. I've already told her I'm seeing someone else and she says she's fine with it. We still on good terms, and for the sake of the baby, I'm going to be there for it.

12 Jan my kid comes into the world. Dunno if it's a boy or girl yet.
 
All I can say is don't be involved with the kid's life. My girlfriends parents divorced when she was 3 months old. I know how this story goes.

By your actions and the stories you have told us here, you wouldn't make a good parent least of all a distant parent.
 
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