Sticks - N - Stones

[Kitsune-chan]

I'm sure we all know the proverbial, "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me". I, however have found that to be a point of contention, in my short yet eventful existence the words used to denigrate me has by far had more inimical effects than my physical injuries.



What do you consider to be worse, physical or emotional afflictions ?

 

[Glordit]

I'm sure we all know the proverbial, "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me". I, however have found that to be a point of contention, in my short yet eventful existence the words used to denigrate me has by far had more inimical effects than my physical injuries.

Your experiences?

You are stating that, the rhyme of sticks and stones, as opposed to relieving you of both physical and emotional distress, has in fact caused the latter of the two?

 

[Kitsune-chan]

You are stating that, the rhyme of sticks and stones, as opposed to relieving you of both physical and emotional distress, has in fact caused the latter of the two?

I'm referring to some notions that emotional abuse ,if you will, is considered to be trivial and easily overcome. However, wounds heal overtime, emotional wounds linger on for much longer. Emotional wounds can stem from the physical injury, now that I think about it.

 

[Glordit]

I'm referring to some notions that emotional abuse ,if you will, is considered to be trivial and easily overcome. However, wounds heal overtime, emotional wounds linger on for much longer. Emotional wounds can stem from the physical injury, now that I think about it.

Apologies, I was not aware that there was some form of latent message, as it was not made clear in your original statement. You made use of personal pro-nouns so the subject became about personal experiences along with how stick and stones has had more harmful effects than physical ones.

Sticks and stones normally refers to name calling, and from my experiences is normally not found as a form of emotional abuse but more as a part of it. Some one could cause emotional abuse with out even using profound language at all in any way, they could simply focus on non physical and verbal forms which can still be extremely taxing on a person.

Could you supply a few examples of how emotional abuse is considered to be trivial and easily overcome?

 

[Kitsune-chan]

Apologies, I was not aware that there was some form of latent message, as it was not made clear in your original statement. You made use of personal pro-nouns so the subject became about personal experiences along with how stick and stones has had more harmful effects than physical ones.

Sticks and stones normally refers to name calling, and from my experiences is normally not found as a form of emotional abuse but more as a part of it. Some one could cause emotional abuse with out even using profound language at all in any way, they could simply focus on non physical and verbal forms which can still be extremely taxing on a person.

Could you supply a few examples of how emotional abuse is considered to be trivial and easily overcome?

From the top of my head, when something insulting is said , you might be told " Ag get over it" " Move on" " It was a joke" " Don't be so morbid" treating it as something superfluous.

 

[Glordit]

From the top of my head, when something insulting is said , you might be told " Ag get over it" " Move on" " It was a joke" " Don't be so morbid" treating it as something superfluous.

Perhaps the person that slung in insult was not aware that what was being uttered was damaging in any way. If the speaker lacks context and is not aware of the person receiving the insults can take offence to them, then their actions would seem normal.

 

[Kitsune-chan]

Perhaps the person that slung in insult was not aware that what was being uttered was damaging in any way. If the speaker lacks context and is not aware of the person receiving the insults can take offence to them, then their actions would seem normal.

The insults I'm talking about are those that are meant to do harm, said with intent. Not a case of saying "didn't your mother ever love you " just to find out that the said person's mother passed away or otherwise. On a side note, when it is realised something insulting has been said, it would only be courtesy to apologise, not to brush it aside, as some may do

 

[Glordit]

The insults I'm talking about are those that are meant to do harm, said with intent. Not a case of saying "didn't your mother ever love you " just to find out that the said person's mother passed away or otherwise. On a side note, when it is realised something insulting has been said, it would only be courtesy to apologise, not to brush it aside, as some may do

Apologies, it could be but it seems like the topic has shifted? From;

when something insulting is said , you might be told "

to something slightly different;

I'm talking about are those that are meant to do harm

I will just assume that your concern is that of insults that harm people, which in turn come to cause forms of emotional abuse.

If you insult some one the person on the receiving end also has a choice to voice their disgust in the other persons actions. Call them out on it and demand that they with draw their insult. I am not saying that insulting people is in any way right, but you can't expect to go around in life listening and believing what others say. Then without defending yourself. Got to learn to grow a thick skin sometimes, not everyone you meet in life is going to be a saint, and even those people will sometimes surprise you.

 

[Kitsune-chan]

Apologies, it could be but it seems like the topic has shifted? From; to something slightly different;

I will just assume that your concern is that of insults that harm people, which in turn come to cause forms of emotional abuse.

If you insult some one the person on the receiving end also has a choice to voice their disgust in the other persons actions. Call them out on it and demand that they with draw their insult. I am not saying that insulting people is in any way right, but you can't expect to go around in life listening and believing what others say. Then without defending yourself. Got to learn to grow a thick skin sometimes, not everyone you meet in life is going to be a saint, and even those people will sometimes surprise you.

I have noticed the digression, my initial intention was to see what people considered to be worse, emotional or physical afflictions. On the point of growing a thick skin, ha ha, mine is as thick as Bronto hide . I've become quite impervious to insults. I do agree with not everyone being a saint, and even those most trusted could betray you at the drop of a hat.

 

[Donisia]

Insults in my opinion can do a hellova lot of damage Speaking from experience it takes much longer for a person to get over a psychological problem caused by insults/talking badly of a person than being hit/physically bullied (physical force is easier to overcome in some cases)
Although id say they are both pretty bad to start off with

 

[MalicE]

While psychological abuse does take longer to "heal" than physical abuse, but the long term effects there of is much less destructive.

Somebody calls you names, you see a therapist and talk about your hurt feelings.

You get beaten up on a regular basis, you probably end up beating your wife and/or children.

If you are unlucky enough to suffer both, odds are you are going to be a serial killer.

So Sticks & Stones can kinda go both ways.

 

[mottamort]

I dunno hey, I call my best friend a dickface so often I occasionally forget his actual name...

 

[bradbear117]

I was bullied for a part of my schooling days, between the standards of 4 and 8 to be precise. The usual crap of being called names, hit and blindsided so I have some insight. How you come out on the other side depends on the decision you make for yourself on how to respond to such negative influences/forces.

When you expect the verbal or physical sticks and stones it can be easier to handle. Its the unexpected outbursts from people that can have lasting repercussions though, the stealth attacks.

I have had two encounters where guys have raged on me so hard that I feel like their anger was imprinted on my soul haha sounds ridiculous but man it was intense, I had no chance to prepare myself. Put it this way, if they had had a gun I probably would have been shot, at least thats the feeling I get.
That emotion has lingered for longer than I care to admit. I faced both situations head on and stood my ground even going as far to meet the one gent on a secluded stretch of coast (thought I was in for a boxing/baseball bat match but he wanted to apologise in private and not let the public see his civil side)

Even though he apologised it didn't fix anything within me and the guy is still a total douche in my eyes.
It would have been better to just beat the crap out of each other and probably be friends after.

 

[Donisia]

While psychological abuse does take longer to "heal" than physical abuse, but the long term effects there of is much less destructive.

Somebody calls you names, you see a therapist and talk about your hurt feelings.

You get beaten up on a regular basis, you probably end up beating your wife and/or children.

If you are unlucky enough to suffer both, odds are you are going to be a serial killer.

So Sticks & Stones can kinda go both ways.

Depends on the person,some may refuse therapy due to fear of whatever may be happening getting worse