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Wenz, if you have been hinting enough that he's got the message, it may be time to stop. My friend recently FINALLY proposed to my sister, after at least 7 years, and I'm convinced that he held out that long only because everyone kept asking when he was going to do it and dropping hints the whole time. I think a lot of guys will especially not propose when they are under pressure to do so, because it should feel like it's your own decision, not because people are pressuring you to do it. Otherwise he might think you'll feel like he only proposed because you pushed him into it. Don't know if your BF's the same, but I think a lot of guys are like that.

Just a thought, I'll leave it with you. I may be wrong, and I don't know what your BF's like, but that's what I've noticed some people are like...
 
matt said:
Wenz, if you have been hinting enough that he's got the message, it may be time to stop. My friend recently FINALLY proposed to my sister, after at least 7 years, and I'm convinced that he held out that long only because everyone kept asking when he was going to do it and dropping hints the whole time. I think a lot of guys will especially not propose when they are under pressure to do so, because it should feel like it's your own decision, not because people are pressuring you to do it. Otherwise he might think you'll feel like he only proposed because you pushed him into it. Don't know if your BF's the same, but I think a lot of guys are like that.

Just a thought, I'll leave it with you. I may be wrong, and I don't know what your BF's like, but that's what I've noticed some people are like...
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I have to agree with Matt.

I'm in the same situation, gf keeps on giving hints.

But I'll propose when I feel that I'm ready and that it's my decision...
 
matt said:
Wenz, if you have been hinting enough that he's got the message, it may be time to stop. My friend recently FINALLY proposed to my sister, after at least 7 years, and I'm convinced that he held out that long only because everyone kept asking when he was going to do it and dropping hints the whole time. I think a lot of guys will especially not propose when they are under pressure to do so, because it should feel like it's your own decision, not because people are pressuring you to do it. Otherwise he might think you'll feel like he only proposed because you pushed him into it. Don't know if your BF's the same, but I think a lot of guys are like that.

Just a thought, I'll leave it with you. I may be wrong, and I don't know what your BF's like, but that's what I've noticed some people are like...
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i know i dont hint it at every chance i get... but he is a very indecisive person... it took him 3 weeks to decide what new gym tekkies he wanted to buy.... do you know how frustrating it is to go tekkie shopping and he tells me ooh he likes these, maybe he shoudl get them and then he's like maybe i should wait and think about it.... 3 weeks i tell you for buy gym shoes, gym shoes for peets sake....
 
Wenzdayz said:
i know i dont hint it at every chance i get... but he is a very indecisive person... it took him 3 weeks to decide what new gym tekkies he wanted to buy.... do you know how frustrating it is to go tekkie shopping and he tells me ooh he likes these, maybe he shoudl get them and then he's like maybe i should wait and think about it.... 3 weeks i tell you for buy gym shoes, gym shoes for peets sake....
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Bwahahahahaha!

Geez that's bad!
 
Hooray our electricity is back on. Seems Cape Town is going to be having some rolling cuts. It was 2 hours for us
 
I must say, one time I was getting new tekkies but I was in a hurry, and bought the first pair that I tried on, but it turns out that they are slightly too small and they hurt my feet after a while, so I never wear them, so taking your time on tekkies is a good thing. HOWEVER by taking your time, I mean half an hour, not 3 weeks. Damn
 
you guys just have to remember getting engaged and getting married is 2 diffrent things.... i want to get engaged... not married... i will wait another 7 years to get married... i just feel we have reached that point where we need to move to the next step.
 
Tricky situation Wenz. Hopefully he feels the need too. Maybe he's in a comfort zone, or is scared of commitment (explains the shoes). Has he expressed an opinion on the subject?
 
Wenzdayz said:
you guys just have to remember getting engaged and getting married is 2 diffrent things.... i want to get engaged... not married... i will wait another 7 years to get married... i just feel we have reached that point where we need to move to the next step.
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Still a commitment either way.
 
Fivel said:
Still a commitment either way.
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I agree with Fivel, going from just BF & GF to partners is a huge step.

It's a step that needs some time to think about!

If it takes him 3 weeks to decide over shoes, it's probably going to take him a while longer to decide about getting engaged.
 
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Tricky situation Wenz. Hopefully he feels the need too. Maybe he's in a comfort zone, or is scared of commitment (explains the shoes). Has he expressed an opinion on the subject?
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not a concrete one. i think he is stuck in his comfort zone.

Fivel said:
Still a commitment either way.
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ja but living together and being married is practically the same thing now a days and we have a rental/living agreement....

i did once tell him that i dont see the point of us getting married unless we want to start a family... maybe i shot myself in the foot there....
 
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