Do you need to get laid?
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phoenix
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Maybe. I think about it sometimes, but I don't think I'm ready for that sort of intimacy. It isn't something I would take lightly.
We would both need to be special to each other.
For now, women and I are "just" friends.
Being a "Nice Guy" is in my nature...I am still awkward around women and tend to put them on pedestals.
We would both need to be special to each other.
For now, women and I are "just" friends.
Being a "Nice Guy" is in my nature...I am still awkward around women and tend to put them on pedestals.
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Kiruna
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I think with all things in life, ppl need to a find a balance.
For me, the most off putting thing is a "wimpy" nice guy who will do anything for me. That doesn't mean I go for assholes either.
When I see guys pampering their chicks, buying them gifts, baby talking *pukes*, laying their heart out and willing to put their own preferences on hold for a chick, it makes me sick. The manliness has been taken out of this poor sod and this chick deserves a klap for letting them keep doing it. The chick will then get used to this treatment and take advantage of it. It's a natural reaction.
This whole putting chicks on pedestals thing is guys fault and chicks fault. To gain someone's affection, it shouldn't be about buying their attention, because you will only get a fraction of it for a short time until the next one comes along with a better offer.
If you are yourself, and there is compromise between both of you and you both get fair equal treatment then things should work out. If you meet someone who refuses to compromise, then that is not the right person for you. (unless you get off on that type of thing) There are females out there that are decent and have been screwed over just as much by either too nice guys or assholes.
women in general don't know what they want, but there are a shit load of guys out there that give them what they think they want and it helps no-one. Either sex is not as fickle as you might think so just be honest and communicate and you will probably find things will work out for both of you.
I'm not talking about one nighters or just sex relationships obviously.
For me, the most off putting thing is a "wimpy" nice guy who will do anything for me. That doesn't mean I go for assholes either.
When I see guys pampering their chicks, buying them gifts, baby talking *pukes*, laying their heart out and willing to put their own preferences on hold for a chick, it makes me sick. The manliness has been taken out of this poor sod and this chick deserves a klap for letting them keep doing it. The chick will then get used to this treatment and take advantage of it. It's a natural reaction.
This whole putting chicks on pedestals thing is guys fault and chicks fault. To gain someone's affection, it shouldn't be about buying their attention, because you will only get a fraction of it for a short time until the next one comes along with a better offer.
If you are yourself, and there is compromise between both of you and you both get fair equal treatment then things should work out. If you meet someone who refuses to compromise, then that is not the right person for you. (unless you get off on that type of thing) There are females out there that are decent and have been screwed over just as much by either too nice guys or assholes.
women in general don't know what they want, but there are a shit load of guys out there that give them what they think they want and it helps no-one. Either sex is not as fickle as you might think so just be honest and communicate and you will probably find things will work out for both of you.
I'm not talking about one nighters or just sex relationships obviously.
Necuno
The Piper
well said; in the end you need to know when to give and when to take over just giving or just taking, however as Kiruna said you should find balance with being a gentleman with a touch of 'roughness'. aka you are nice, but not useless or without sense of being able to do things.
/goes off to get caveman club instead of flowers
:e
However it's not incorrect to have your woman/partner pampered for a day or more. This is all good too, but should not be expected or being done too much as this would loose the proper intent of the action itself.
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Graal
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Meh, my flatmate last year swore high and low that being an asshole is the only way to get laid and that I'd never get laid because I didn't try hard enough to be an asshole. I didn't try at all to be honest, because sex didn't really bother me much. Turns out, I got laid, and this year he still has problems talking to girls, despite the 4 or 5 books that was supposed to teach him to get girls by being an asshole.
Grimspoon
The Hoff
to0kenZA
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Ouchies dude...I guess that doesn't come near to saying "sorry to hear the bad news"..
Best of luck to you boet!
Duke Dude
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Not to seem like a douche, but what did you expect? Sleeping around will only end in two possible ways:
1) You get a sexually transmitted disease
2) The chick gets pregnant
Other than that, best of luck mate! Sucks that this has happened
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Ichigo
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Good luck with the baby and all, are you hoping for a male or female?
Necuno
The Piper
sure you're the father ?
C-Bear
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Thanks lol.
I thought she was BSing me.. then she mailed me a pic of the sonagram.
Guess my player days are over lol. And yeah you are right Duke Dude. I was naive.. And yeah..
Congratulations!!!!
Duke Dude
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Congratulations!!!!
LOL!! You obviously didn't read through the whole thread...
C-Bear
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Oh I did... and believe me, I think this is the best thing that could happen to him (or to anyone for that matter). He'll, hopefully, mature because of this and move on from the lifestyle he is currently leading
. I also hope his baby is a girl - he'll learn to respect women more 
.BTW, Kuga: I'm sure you feel very overwhelmed and worried right now but you'll be okay.
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Kuga
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A boy!! So I don't have to worry about a little girls heart breaks etc
I think so.. I'm gonna have a paternity test when the baby is old enough.
I'm still in shock man. I wasn't planning on this at all
Oh I did... and believe me, I think this is the best thing that could happen to him (or to anyone for that matter). He'll, hopefully, mature because of this and move on from the lifestyle he is currently leading
BTW, Kuga: I'm sure you feel very overwhelmed and worried right now but you'll be okay.
You may be right. Pretty sure I'm not gonna mess around for a while now. And thanks.