Ike_009
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We can only do our best to educate them
Or just smile and wave
The Gaymer Thread
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Or just smile and wave
se7en
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Inspired by a certain other off-topic thread that gained a lot of attention recently, I figured MyGaming could do with a spot for all LGBTQI + other gamers to sort of congregate and perhaps discuss stuff that impacts us - gaming or otherwise.
While I use the term "gaymer" a bit tongue-in-cheek - because let's face it, gamers are gamers, and the term doesn't quite encapsulate everyone - but sometimes it's good to know there's a place you can go to talk about stuff that, sometimes, straight people just don't get.
Like how unfair it is you can't romance Garrus with MaleShep in vanilla Mass Effect *cries into hand-painted Team Vakarian banner*
Aside from that, though, I feel MyGaming should be, and is, a place that you can be free to be you - and when it comes to sexuality or sexual orientation, sometimes that can be daunting, and sometimes you can feel very alone in the world.
So think of this as a thread to discuss all things LGBTQI related - even if it's just to ask what LGBTQI stands for.
It can be a place to come out, seek advice, share experiences, or connect with other gaymers, or whatever you feel is relevant.
Everyone is welcome.
Note: this is a hate-free zone, and forumites who insist on coming in here to stir nonsense (gay, straight, or otherwise) and spew hate will be dealt with accordingly.
good on you man
Clive Woofer
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The Cape Town Pride is next weekend, btw. Any of you guys going?
brendanvb
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Never been to any pride events. Not really sure it's my thing... but I'd like to go at least once. Won't make this one though. It's my boyfriend's birthday that weekend anyway
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Lycanthrope
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I went to to Knysna Pink Loerie thing two or three years back. It's nice to watch the turnout and the support, especially from the local businesses.
D and I went to the one here last year.
I tend to make a habit of pitching to these things to show support but I'm not the kind to ever actively participate.
Nice to just go have a cup of coffee or something afterwards
qornea
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Gay Pride is one of those things that's become quite divisive of late. On the one hand it's quite a party - loads of fun and pretty amazing seeing how many gay folk are out there. It's a good morale boost - especially if you feel like you're the only gay in your village.
But there have been divided views over the past couple of years about the purpose of the events - it's not *really* supposed to be a party, it's also supposed to be a social and political statement to show, in force, that gay people as a group are there in number and will stand against oppression - or in solidarity with gay people who come under attack across the globe.
There's also been a bit of controversy specifically regarding the Joburg Pride - it's seen as quite exclusionary: attended mostly by white people in safe suburbs like Parkhurst, while the gay community in Soweto and other townships have their own, far more political and 'dangerous' Pride march where discrimination is still rife.
I'm not one to tell people what they should or should not do - I never agreed with Pride until I got to a point where I understood its purpose. I think everyone should at least attend once, even if it's only to see all the bright colours and have a bit of fun.
Haha I would hope you'd still game even if you had a girlfriend xD
But there have been divided views over the past couple of years about the purpose of the events - it's not *really* supposed to be a party, it's also supposed to be a social and political statement to show, in force, that gay people as a group are there in number and will stand against oppression - or in solidarity with gay people who come under attack across the globe.
There's also been a bit of controversy specifically regarding the Joburg Pride - it's seen as quite exclusionary: attended mostly by white people in safe suburbs like Parkhurst, while the gay community in Soweto and other townships have their own, far more political and 'dangerous' Pride march where discrimination is still rife.
I'm not one to tell people what they should or should not do - I never agreed with Pride until I got to a point where I understood its purpose. I think everyone should at least attend once, even if it's only to see all the bright colours and have a bit of fun.
I'm pretty accepting of people regardless of their sexual orientation.
I'm a straight male gamer, without a girlfriend - which is why I game -- hardcore!
Haha I would hope you'd still game even if you had a girlfriend xD
Hagan
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A bit less than usual I would think -- given that I'd have to spend time with her.
Lol - I make it sound like a burden.
It'd be something like: "Darling, I'm playing online, there's no pause and the game is only half way... Can't we do that later?"
She'd have to be pretty accepting
Ike_009
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A bit less than usual I would think -- given that I'd have to spend time with her.
Lol - I make it sound like a burden.
It'd be something like: "Darling, I'm playing online, there's no pause and the game is only half way... Can't we do that later?"
She'd have to be pretty accepting
Tell her it's a ranking match
Lydon
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I wouldn't say it offends me, but it causes a momentary sickness to my stomach when I hear someone use the word in that context. It's probably because I had an extremely Christian upbringing where I was constantly taught that being gay is wrong, and I knew people who used the term in a derogatory manner with the intent of insinuating homosexuality. So I can't help but automatically and momentarily associate the word with a direct mockery of homosexuality when it's being used as an insult.
I also think it's pretty unnecessary considering the wide range of similar insults that could be used instead, without the potential to cause confusion and hurt as a result of it.
I also think it's pretty unnecessary considering the wide range of similar insults that could be used instead, without the potential to cause confusion and hurt as a result of it.
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brendanvb
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This pretty much. Being too sensitive doesn't help, so I try not to let things like that bother me, as in most cases (well, with the people I surround myself with), I know they don't intend to offend.
qornea
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It doesn't offend me, but I make a point of asking people who use it what it is, exactly, which makes the situation "gay" - and based on their response, I correct them or direct them to a better word to use.
Unless two dudes are making out right in front of you, I don't think shouting "Wow, that's so gay" at something is necessary.
I'm entirely guilty of throwing it around myself, though.
Stunt
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My taking as well. I've had a few gay friends throughout my life, the majority fade from friendships due to their obsessing that they're never really accepted by those who've known them since before they came out - never the matter of what has been said or what assurances have been made.
I have a very sound acceptance of everyone around me, I cast myself from society due to what I experienced in the Army and during break and my last shift I told many lies to friends, new and old, in attempt to maintain a level of humanity which left my grasp eons ago. It caught up to me though when I had a good breakdown. It's not exactly the same thing, but in a sense it's similar to you guys coming out.
Respect to you all.
I have a very sound acceptance of everyone around me, I cast myself from society due to what I experienced in the Army and during break and my last shift I told many lies to friends, new and old, in attempt to maintain a level of humanity which left my grasp eons ago. It caught up to me though when I had a good breakdown. It's not exactly the same thing, but in a sense it's similar to you guys coming out.
Respect to you all.
brendanvb
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I think it was true, but I can't find any recent info on it so not sure whether it is still like that.
Has anyone been watching HBO's new gay-orientated show, 'Looking'?
brendanvb
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Yes! I just started watching Looking this past weekend. I'm finding it's a more believable version of Queer as Folk so far, with some welcome odd humour. Pretty much Girls but with gay guys. I'll keep watching
Same here. Enjoying it and I can relate a lot to Patrick, but I do think it's a bit slow. The first season is only going to be 8 episodes and not a whole bunch has happened. Hopefully it gets a second season.